There are many clichés circling around motherhood – prejudices, universal truths and half-truths packed neatly in a single word: Mom, Mama, Mommy, Mother. But there is one cliché that bothers me most and I cannot stand – that mothers are mothers and nothing else. It’s an universal belief that mothers enjoy motherhood so much, they don’t go out, never get drunk, don’t dress themselves properly, don’t have sex, never embarrass themselves because, shame on you – how can you be a good mother when you work late or just have fun on your own?
Why does motherhood have to be all or nothing? I can be grateful to be a mom and still want to feel like a human.
Why does motherhood have to be all or nothing? I can be grateful to be a mom and still want to feel like a human. I can love my child and still want to go to work. I can be simultaneously tired and wanting to go out and meet my friends and still love my child with every fiber of my being. I’ve always wondered why no one ever talks about the dads? Why does our society think it is totally acceptable that dads go out, have full-time jobs, be presidents and do whatever and whenever they want to but if a mother does the same she’s condemned as a bad mother? Yes, I know, and I agree: Motherhood is precious. Babies are miracles. Time goes too fast. The days are long, but the years are short. And still. I’m not suddenly another person when I become a mother, I’m just a woman with a child. To all mothers out there: you are a precious being – please don’t forget.
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